How To Get Kids To Listen Effectively

By Carolyn Long


Children have a lot going on, both on an emotional level as well as with what they have to do with their life. It is often difficult for them to listen to their parents and teachers. It is not always as if they are being disobedient. Very often, things become chaotic in their lives. Parents need to know how to get kids to listen without becoming frustrated.

Some people become annoyed when their kids are not listening to them. They may repeat themselves or raise their voice. This is not the right approach because it can create an element of fear within the child. The parent will also become more impatient. It is almost like you think your child is ignoring you, but this is not the case.

It is important to know that your child is actually listening and attentive before you start engaging with them, or else this is going to lead to a lot of frustration. For example, when a child is completely engaged in a project, they become focused on this. They don't allow any distractions to enter into their space. You have to make sure that you are able to make contact with them.

You have to connect with them so that they don't feel intimidated. When they are very busy with something, an order or command will often go through one ear and out the other. You need to be able to connect with the. This will also create a stronger bond. You can do this by touching them, and making eye contact.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

Some children will have more problems listening in general. They can have learning disorders, autism or attention deficit disorders. These are things that teachers may be able to pick up. It is helpful to know the signs and symptoms. Parents need to be encouraging at a time like, offering a lot of love and support.

Some children who battle hearing what you have to say, may also be suffering from something like autism or attention deficit disorder. If you find that they are switched off and you really can't get into their space, it may be a good idea to consult with a family doctor. They will refer you to a pediatrician. Parents need to handle the situation with a lot of love and encouragement, because it is not easy.




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