Focusing On Emotional Growth In Adults

By Christopher Jackson


There are certain stages in life that everyone goes through. One moves from a child to a teenager. They will grow up and mature into an adult and over time, they will become elderly. There are physical signs to say that one has reached these stages. However, there is also emotional growth in adults which makes it difficult to determine how old a person is.

For example, someone may be stuck in their life. It can happen after trauma. They may have been abused as a child. If they choose to block this out, they often just forget about it. However, one will always be stuck in this place, emotionally. A person like this will not be fully mature as someone who has grown up in a healthy environment. People are able to tell the difference.

A lot of people become stuck because they are still caught up in this web. They have not grown up in a happy, healthy environment. They were exposed to a lot of abuse. The result of this being, that they are anxious, fearful and on the edge. They are often not able to cope in an intimate relationship. An adult like this may seem as if they are still in the adolescent stage.

Someone who is healthier will have moved on from this stage to an adult and will be able to make choices and decisions. They know about boundaries and about right from wrong. Someone else may rather turn to drugs and alcohol because this is their only coping mechanism. It keeps the pain away and they feel less confused.

It is not something that comes automatically. There are specialized sorts of groups which are ideal for someone like borderline personality disorder, for example. This will teach them more about being relaxed through meditation. There are various coping mechanisms that they learn so that they know what to do should they think they are going to react in a violent way.

Someone who has been neglected or abandoned will go through life unable to connect with their partner. They may feel as if they are unable to trust anyone because the hurt that they have been put through as a child. They may just not know how to connect with anyone because nobody has been intimate with them before. This can create a lot of fear in their lives.

To be able to connect with someone, one needs to process these emotions and this is how you are able to feel. It is important to talk about the underlying issues. When one doesn't confront these issues, you will keep on turning to alcohol and drugs or something else which will replace the obstacle that you are facing.

Talking about these problems is often the only solution. However, it is important that one goes to a specialized type of group or a counselor where the patient can get the right type of attention. Connecting with the rest of the group members or the psychologist is very important. Over time they will start to feel various changes start to occur in their life, and this is obviously rewarding.




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